Keeping Prom Safe
Saturday, April 13, 2019 at Pasadera
Proms can be times when teenagers view themselves as entering into the adult world, no matter what their grade level. While this maturity is delightful when we experience our students to be the independent, capable, thoughtful adults we are so proud of, there are many occasions when they still need our guidance. Occasionally, the adult behavior they emulate may not be particularly commendable, and students sometimes place themselves in dangerous positions.
We want all the memories of prom to be happy ones. We are speaking to students about staying safe, making good choices, and exercising the all-important tenets of honesty, respect, responsibility, and compassion at prom just as they would at School. Contrary to rumor, film and television, and social media, teenage drinking, drug use, and other risky behaviors are not the norm, nor should they be lightly considered as “teens will be teens” kinds of choices. Adolescent brains are in a stage of rapid development during which the intake of unhealthy chemicals has a particularly negative effect that can be life-long.
Enlisting Your Help
While we believe that the majority of York School students exercise responsibility in these areas, we want to partner with you in emphasizing to our students that drinking or drug use of any kind is not an acceptable option for prom, whether it happens prior to the event, at the prom site, or at an after-party. To this end, we want to be very clear that any student who arrives at prom under the influence is in violation of School rules to the same extent as any student who consumes alcohol or drugs at the prom. Either would face the severest disciplinary consequences. Though off campus, prom is a School event where all of our rules and expectations about behavior apply. Please note that students and their guests will not be permitted to bring personal food or beverages to prom. The Prom Committee will supply ample refreshments.
What About Driving?
We believe that the one place the usually disparaging term “helicopter parent” doesn’t apply is when it comes to young drivers. Here, we hope you will dust off the Blackhawk and set it down in the back seat where your teenager can see it in the rear view mirror. Why? “The most dangerous two years of your life are between 16 and 17, and the reason for that is driving.” An average of 6 teenagers die in auto accidents each day. Chances of being in an accident increase 44% when there is one non-family passenger in the car. Add more passengers and both the distraction and the risk increase dramatically. A passenger, in fact, is every bit as dangerous as texting and driving. We hope you will join us in speaking frankly with your teen, and limit the number of passengers you will allow your student to drive or ride with. Of course, under any circumstance, no student who has been driving for less than twelve months may transport a passenger under the age of twenty unless accompanied by an adult over the age of twenty-five.
Curfew Permission Slips
On a final note, students are reminded that they will need permission slips to be out after 11 PM unless they have reached the age of 18. These slips are available at the dance from Mr. Johnson.
Here’s to happy memories and a safe, rewarding last few weeks of the school year!